Sleep! hahahaha I laugh every time I hear the word, but it ain’t funny the countless times I cried because of lack of sleep.
This thing called sleep left me the moment I gave birth to my little bug, before he was born I was sleeping the most I ever had in my life, probably had 4 naps in a day. Now that’s all gone doesn’t exist in this household, we have been struggling with the whole sleeping palaver since birth to the point where I can’t even remember the times when he does sleep good through the night, okay probably sometimes he goes through some good spells of sleep.
I look at sleep in stages which has about a million phases which I’m not gonna lie I find very difficult.
When he was little (well under 1) he was brilliant, I mean brilliant the occasional hard nights because he was teething and decided to grow all his teeth before he was one. He had really good routine that I never broke as he was a clockwork baby when it came to feeding and sleeping as his body clock was the same as it was when he had to stay in hospital when he was born.
He was kinda a sick baby, always had a cold, runny nose and coughing throughout the year, super weak immune system so I know that can affect sleep, but from Feb 2015 everything changed he didn’t take too well to his 1st set of Jabs you get when you are a year old, he suffered quite a lot of the side effects one of them leading my little bug to have Febrile Convulsions which are basically seizures which help the body to cool down, kids that are affected by this are affected from the age of 1-5 this is pretty stressful.
This was a massive factor to where I lost my sleep, 1) I was constantly worrying thinking that it’s gonna happen again so constantly kept checking on him while he was sleeping throughout the night 2) My little bug lost all routine and struggled to get back to sleep with ease 3) He developed night terrors after the traumatising event.
I had to overcome my fear of thinking the worst, this is where my anxiety began, I would have to basically talk to myself out loud and say he is fine, he is not going to have another seizure, stop worrying, everything will be okay. I said this to myself over and over again everyday until I didn’t need to anymore, almost like a prayer to overcome those strong feelings my mind was trying to produce.
I had to bring routine back a new fun way of trying to make bedtime a fun good thing for the little bug to enjoy sleep again and settle down easier.
So I re decorated his room with wall stickers and colourful bedding of all his favourite shows he liked, I made bath time fun with loads of bubbles with loads of dinosaurs toys in with him as he loved everything dinosaur and still does now. Reading before bedtime was a hard one and currently an issue I am working on to be consistent, he just can’t seem to come to terms that after story time & cuddles it’s time for bed, then then tantrums begin.
The screaming, crying, calling out mine and James name started, we gave him all the comforters he needed blankey etc.
Tried the controlled crying method, let him cry till he was tired, the thing is he wouldn’t give up for hours, it was an absolute madness, I was even considering to pay for a sleep therapist.
But we pushed through making sure he was occupied most days and had run off a lot of energy from being in the park or outdoors. But he would still wake up at least twice in the night kicking off so I’d like to think he is going to be 3 soon and starting nursery so hopefully a new routine will follow.
I’ll keep you guys up to date on how his sleeping is getting on as I’m basically a normal functioning zombie that doesn’t get as much sleep as I need but can sometimes see the light at the end of the tunnel in hoping nursery will save my life.